Monday Ranting: The Madonna-Whore Complex Lives On

At least this gives me something to strive toward...

At least this gives me something to strive toward…

A recent article penned by the “Typical Bloke” on the website Fash X Fash takes what the audience is supposed to assume is joe average male’s opinion of today’s female populous. As much as I like to shout the article represents old ways of thinking, I know quite a few people who feel there are only two types of women in existence, whores and wives. The piece definitely ruffled the feathers of Lindy West at Jezebel. So much so she crafted a response post so wonderfully titled, Female Purity is Bullshit. iLoves it! Not just because I too believe the notion of female secksual purity is ridonkulous but also that men feel entitled to female purity, Madonna-Whore Complex anyone! Male entitlement is as damning to adult dating & mating as female gold digging. Word? Word!

While men feel it’s 100% within their right as men (what does this even mean) to bed every walking vag in reach, they find this same behavior in women deplorable…unless it benefits them. Maybe it’s the excess testosterone? Me no know! Women freely partaking in the fun sticks of available gents get labeled whore. After the smashing of course because hypocrisy without being selfish is just foolishness. In the same breath men knee deep in the heaux life space feel settling down requires someone “holier” than the “skanks” they’ve sullied their sheets, cars seats, and Burger King bathrooms with, because we all know you can’t turn a heaux into a housewife…until you do. No one wants mom breaking bread with a woman of ill repute, I get it. Of course maybe men should excuse themselves from that table as well. I know I know man logic stamps this behavior approved.

But I digress; searching for purity is an adventure in futility, mostly because secksual purity has no quantifiable measurement. Word? Word! Is it the activities one partakes, the number of riders on the bus, a combination of the two? Despite the inability to quantify purity men still seek it out and expect it in a life-mate yet, no two men have the same barometer therefore if women collectively even tried to ascend to this perch it would be impossible to reach. ←see that’s real logic. Even if secksual purity existed men wouldn’t be able to see it if it smacked them in their faces. Maybe this is why the Typical Bloke said good girls are as extinct as unicorns…good girls are mythical creatures that men created in their minds and have rationalized the women they’ve chosen to settle down with into their ridonkulous ideal. As a side note unicorns aren’t extinct, they never existed, more man logic I’m sure o___0!

This jaded mindset sets the stage for a dismal dating & mating dance by assigning divine attributes to women deemed worthy, basically puts the pucci on a pedestal. The problem, pedestals can’t dance – and when they do, they topple, shatter, and leave destruction in their wake. Destruction being male egos and we all know they’re fragile. Once a woman placed on a pedestal shatters the image a man has constructed in his mind, it’s impossible to resurrect the statute. Try as they might humpty dumpty will never get put back together again, at least not to his original packaging. The same goes for the “unicorn” good girl this man created in his mind of the woman he chose. As a result seeds of doubt permeate the relationship resulting in the man beginning to see his chosen mate as a whore with no way back to being a wife. Feeling entitled to something that doesn’t exist and then ascribing falsities to a woman once she’s wife’d up will result in verklempt feelings and bruised egos. See gents this is the problem with dichotomies; folks are regulated to two mutually exclusive positions while life tells us that nothing is ever that black and white.

Men must learn that women are human, and humanity is flawed. Really? Really! If men are allowed to slip up and fall down on the stage of life, women are equally able to do those same things sans judgment. Not that I’m calling secksual pursuits slip-ups or fall downs. What one does with his peen and her kittah kat is up to the owner. And I’m of the strong opinion that women and men should be allowed the same playing field. If a man’s indiscretion is viewed as simply being a man than a woman’s indiscretion is being a woman. All of which is a part of being human at its most basic level actually, satisfying a physical need regardless of consequence. If men feel it is their biological right by virtue of a peen to dip in as many waters as possible they have mistaken biology. Biology doesn’t give you the right to anything besides maybe a monopoly on testicular cancer.

Trust me gents there are no Madonnas because life exists in varying shades of grey. Not to mention if there were, why would any “Madonna” want a man who’s lived his life as a “Whore.” More often than not, like attracts like. Relationships tend to develop out of availability and proximity. An adventurous man who lives his life secksually free will tend to find a woman somewhere along those same lines, mostly because they play in the same pool. I would assume that men who smash chicks in Burger King bathrooms aren’t the same ones who pursue women in libraries…I could be wrong. No judgment either way, how one chooses to live his/her life is all the way his/her right. What I do know is searching for something you’re not will not only lead to a mismatched relationship but also disappointment. Something you find gratifying will be missing from your partner, and who wants a life mate you don’t actually find titillating…men?

But I could be wrong, what says you Lovelies, do you believe in the Madonna-Whore Complex? Do you believe there are only two types of women in this world? What about men? Do you think anatomy dictates secksual freedom? Speak on it in the comments, as always to share is to care and hashish!

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